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My theory is about moments, moments of impact. My theory is that these moments of impact, these flashes of high intensity that completely turn our lives upside down actually end up defining who we are. The thing is each one of us is the sum total of every moment that we’ve ever experienced with all the people we’ve ever known. And it’s these moments that become our history. Like our own personal greatest hits of memories that we play and replay in our minds over and over again.

The moment of impact. The moment of impact provides potential for change. It has ripple effects far beyond what we can predict. Sending some particles crashing together. Making them closer than before, while sending others spinning off into great ventures. Landing them where you’ve never thought you’d find them. That’s the thing about moments like these. You can’t, no matter how hard you try, control how it’s gonna affect you. You just gotta let the colliding parts go where they may. And wait. For the next collision- (The Vow)

If we are to view life as one big set of collisions inspiring a million tiny changes and every so often monumental, epic change, then all of life is about the crash. The moment you meet that person who inspires you to become somebody you didn’t even know you could be. Or that someone who makes you realize that it’s okay to trust again.

The interesting part of these collisions is how we as people change after a collision happens. For some people that change doesn’t happen for many years afterwards, but for others that change happens in an instant. So rather your collision happens years down the road or right in that moment. You’ll forever be changed for life is one big collision.

I’ve seen change have various affects on people. But the most common though often inspires us, is the change that pushes us towards new heights.

I’ve seen a woman who made the right choice for herself and her two children by getting away from a situation. By doing so her collision of change has ultimately became the best decision she could have  made for herself and for her children. They have become a more confident and outgoing version of themselves.

I’ve personally gone through my own collision or rather collisions these past 25 years. I’ve been through some difficult hardships in my life just like the rest of us. But these collisions that we go through, be as hard and painful as they are, they in life’s many ways were necessary. Having gone through all these heartaches and setbacks has in some crazy way helped to shape the person I am becoming and hope to be one day.

Some people need change to grow. I speak from experience by saying that each and every battle and collision I’ve been in has definitely made me change and grow from the person I was and use to be to the person I am today. I may have not liked the outcome of these collision but all in all it has helped changed me in its own way. It has made me look at myself and at the world differently than I did before.

Theses are the moments that help change our lives, these are the very collisions that help make us who we are.

Everything you and I do has an impact on someone and the coolest thing is we don’t even know that we’re doing it! We don’t see or notices that we’re impacting someone’s life until there has been a…Collision.